Through childhood, adolescence and late teen years I’ve read the classic Little Women a zillion times, every abridged version known, every movie ever made even an animated series in Japanese.,my sister and myself are bigtime fans of the classic.Whenever I read the book, its amazing how I can easily relate myself to the 2nd amongst the 4 sisters- ‘Joe March’.
Often tempestuous, highly ambitious and sometimes brash, short-tempered, bold and also tom-boyish, similar traits of the author of this post (replace sometimes brash with alltime brash)…However,in the novel, amongst the four sisters, Meg marries Lauire’s tutor Mr.Brooke..Amy finds love in Laurie himself while touring Europe and beth for some reason,does not live to see the end of the novel. Though Jo had resolved never to marry after declining Laurie’s proposal, still she felt an awful loneliness as she wondered what direction her life should take. While struggling with these feelings, a tutor entered her life, Professor Bhaer. He was an older, German gentleman, filled wit'n a genteel love. People turned to him because of the compassion he so freely gave, akin to Beth's spirit. This love healed Jo.and eventually married Bhaer.
Sadly, I have turned 20 something last Jan without seeing anything remotely close to the “Bhaer” .However I must admit, this is least of my worries at the moment.But the most worrisome ppl about me being single, are a crowd of aunts,their cousins, their second in-laws and other female relatives who I’ve never knew existed till now and the Bhai in the corner tea shop.
Why all the dire state of affairs??.
Women today have come a long way, looking well into the future. Having studied in the best schools and colleges, excelling in their carreers as good as the guys. And suddenly they hit 25 years, and BHAM!!!...they give up everything, and move with their husbands to the US of A. And if its arranged marriage fiasco, its even worse…You meet the guy, and get married in a months time, and give up the whole 25 years of your living, principles for what u stand for to move with him and getting accustomed to his way of living. Most of my peers with great aspirations for their careers who I did schooling/college with, are in my orkut friend’s list.And what do they do after their marriage?..Their fulltime job, is posting photos in orkut, when it rains, snows or when a tornado hits their town .And their partime job would include writing comments for photos posted by fellow “desperate” housewives.
“Omg, Its snowing in Houston after ten years”, reads one such friend’s gtalk status.
(A prospect weather girl in the making.,I should say!)
“I ate masala dosa for breakfast”
“I tripped on my shoe lace”
“Oh, my house roof flew away with “Katrina”
Don’t be overwhelmed, if you see such status messages on ur instant chat programs.Its either someone finds Hurricanes very amuzing, or some husband in US is making masala dosa for breakfast.
What’s with this bunch, oneday you have friends around you cracking GRE,GMAT,XAT, CAT, …DOG and every english exam under the roof, and another day you find them at your doorstep holding a glossy hard back card in the name of a wedding invitation with a wide glee while explaining how they plan to settle in US on the tenth day after their marriage. You have been studying so hard so much for 15 old years, working in the best jobs that you deserve and living an independent life that you always dreamed of and then BANG… the moment comes when you have to find that better half, Can u settle for anything less when it comes to marriage?
I guess its time to think ladies(guys can also think),So your parents are maniacally looking for a match, or your mom is constantly bugging you to learn to make drumstick sambar or your sister is just waiting for the day to get the room to herself,Its high time you turn to them and squeal “This is my life, And it always be interesting as its always been”.And no one is gonna change that.
I dunno, If its me, or every other girl feels this way (I don’t see anybody complaining though..sad…)
Anyways, before I signoff…just a few pointers,
1.Always remember you are more special than you think you are
2.Money is good always, before or after marriage
3.Never compromise on your career, you’ve earned it.
4.Talk to friends who like you the way you are.